Musings of my mind - II
There are some things that I observe around me and which have quite an impact on me, and I believe most of you reading this might agree with me.
One:
Everyone in this world need some kind of motivation / appreciation / recognition for their efforts, just like how we expect recognition for our efforts in work / office. Unless such appreciation or recognition keep coming, people are bound to get frustrated and annoyed quite often. This applies to families as well.
I feel, we generally take family for granted for things that are being done for us. If somebody in our family does something for us, how often have we taken time to appreciate it? Almost never right? Why do we deny them that? What do we lose in spending a few minutes to let them know what their work means to you? If not daily, atleast once in a while, we can surely do this. It'd instantly make them happy and also make them feel important.
For example, when someone takes an effort to cook something new, even though it's not something you like, or that it didn't taste the way you like, before you comment on how it is, please take a moment to appreciate the effort they put in. That'd instantly boost them up. Later on, you can let them know what you didn't like. Also, the key is in the way you communicate it to them. I'd recommend putting it out as an improvement point, rather than an outright negative comment. Eg. You could use phrases like, "so-and-so could have been better", instead of an outright "I don't like it". This will surely create a positive impact on the recipient.
Two:
The world is filled with people who are so different from each other. Each one has a certain way of doing things, and most often it may not be the same way that you'd do it or like it to be done. The end results, however, are going to be the same.
When we need a work to be done by someone, why are we so persistent that it has to be done the way we do it? Once we delegate a work to somebody, we keep making corrections to their approach to the extent that drives the other person to think why they agreed to do that work in the first place, and the next time they wouldn't bother asking if they could help you and you'd be left doing all the work yourself. Further, you also lose the right to constantly tell that all the work is done only by you and nobody is helping out. Help was offered, but you were only too stubborn to accept it the way it came.
So, whenever you need help, ask for it and mention the key things to be done or the result you need. Learn not to micro manage and accept the work as it gets done. This way the person delegating can relax and the person who does the work would also feel good that they were able contribute something in the chores.
Have any of you faced these situations? If so, do let me know your suggestions on how else these things can be handled in a better way.
Both the points you've mentioned are actually how I think about things too. About thanking people I realised after my grandfather told thanks to my mum and aunt after he finishes lunch. Till then I never realised how important it is to thank people at home. This was a few years back and post that I always ensured to thank everyone at home for whatever they did.
ReplyDeleteOn the second point something I've always believed is you either tell me what to do or how to do it. If you give me something to do then let me do it my way, otherwise you ask me if I can do something a particular way and I'll reply whether I want to or not. I try to follow this at work also. Usually tell my team members to do something and do not interfere with the how unless they ask me for help or of I need something done a particular way I tell them my point of view and listen if they have another way to do it. I feel that even if you don't choose the way the other person recommends, just hearing them out and explaining why it has to be done in a particular way motivates them to do it in that way.
Wow!! that's a great starting point for you.
DeleteAnd as for your second point, hearing people out really helps.